About 2 months ago I was standing in the bathroom brushing my teeth when I got a phone call from JJ. He told me to sit down because he had something to tell me. I told him to just tell me what was going on. His next words sent tears streaming down my face. “She’s not just pregnant with one baby, she’s having twins.” The next thing I knew I was on my knees. A million thoughts ran across my mind: “We knew A and Sunshine’s biological mother was pregnant, we had known for awhile. But, twins?! What on earth were we going to do. Could we do this? Should we do this? What did this mean for A and Sunshine’s case? Would she want to keep the babies? Would we be starting this process all over again? Twins?!”
Fast forward to two weeks ago when I got a phone call from our case manager telling me that the twins were born. JJ and I sat for a long time, angry, sad, hopeful, tired, confused, and happy all at once. Then we called her back and said, “Yes.”
We had given all of our babies things away to other foster families because we never, in our wildest dreams thought that this day would come. So, there we were, a few days away from bringing home twins with no cribs in the guest room (now nursery), no baby clothes in the drawers, no bottles ready by the sink, and no diapers on the shelf. I went into full mama bear mode. I went to three different Targets and a Buy Buy Baby that night looking for preemie diapers, clothes, and bottles. I emailed companies who had worked with us in the past to see if they’d want to collaborate again. I cried. I cried a lot. A Buy, Buy Baby worker found me, holding a preemie outfit and sobbing. She gave me a huge hug and helped me get all the things we would need.
Its been a whirlwind since that day. We now have 4 amazing little kiddos. The twins are happy and healthy. They are preemies but are gaining weight nicely. Sweet A and Sunshine adore their little siblings. Its been a full two weeks of sleepless nights, full bellies and lots of snuggles.
In the course of of two and half months we moved, started a whole new regiment of therapy for A, had their severance trial, and then welcomed the twins into our family. We will have a lot more blog posts coming up covering a lot of these topics. We have a lot we want to say, a lot we want to share.
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At the risk of coming across as insensitive, does it make you mad that people who have their kids in foster care fall pregnant again knowing that they cannot keep their new baby once born? What are your thoughts on this? Sorry I am so ill informed, and apologies if my wording isn’t right, but I am genuinely curious.